When we got married (pre-Pinterest)
the only inspiration you had were other weddings you attended or what you saw
in bridal magazines. Now don’t get me wrong, I LOVE Pinterest. I’ve used a lot
of the ideas I’ve found on there for Baby Boy, home organization, youth group at
church, but in my personal opinion when it comes to weddings Pinterest is
making things a little more difficult.
Now you can get on Pinterest and
there are millions of “simple DIY” ideas that claim they will save you
money. In my opinion they might save you
a few dollars but it will definitely deplete your sanity. Not to mention that
despite the fact that there are millions of ideas on Pinterest everyone seems
to use the same ones (mason jars, wine bottles, natural wood, wild flowers). This
“minimalist” idea is fine and all but it is anything but minimal. Having to
collect all those damn mason jars, natural wood pieces, and all those “have to
have them” small details that in all honesty, the only thing you will remember
about them is that you stayed up all night making them.
A couple’s wedding should be
about the marriage and the wedding is just the first day of marriage, what they
hope will be a lifelong partnership. Does it really matter that you have the
right tables for your guests to sit at? Does it really matter that the flowers
are just perfect? Not in my opinion. The wedding should be about starting your
life over, as a unit, with your soul mate.
Why start your marriage off with a stressful day? Why worry about all those small details (that
your guests will either not notice or forget as soon as they leave)? Why not
focus on the marriage, or the vows, the promise that you make to your fiancé in
front of your family and friends, to love and honor them for the rest of your
life together? If you want to plan for your wedding, go to premarital
counseling, talk about your marriage with your fiancé. What do you want out of
your marriage? What does your life together look like to the other person? Talk
about your finances. When 50% of marriages end in divorce and 45% of those
divorces are caused by money, I feel that would be a good thing to discuss.
Everybody was brought up with different views and ways of dealing with money.
It is my suggestion that one discuss it ahead of time. But I digress.
The only advice I have for people
getting married now is to remember that the wedding is just the first day of
the marriage. The marriage is what the wedding is all about and the “perfect”
wedding doesn’t necessarily mean the perfect marriage.